S/he's just not that into you: Dealing with unrequited love
Sometimes you are caught in a situation where you fall for someone who doesn't even care for what you feel. The worse is, he or she plays with your feelings having been assured that no matter what they do, you would always be a puppet that he or she could just throw away anytime. Yes, he or she goes out with you, spend hours with you and flirt around with you. Just being with him or her makes you complete. But in the long run, you would always ask yourself, "Would this really be enough?"
No, never! You may enjoy the feeling of being in love with someone who doesn't love you because you are just daydreaming with the thoughts that someday he or she will love you in return. The thought of him or her falling for you is the only hope that you hold on to. You would feel happy when you are with that person. But in the long run, things would just be harder.
Even if all the answers are already slapped in your face that he or she doesn't love you, fear would still dominate. You fear to confront the person of what you both really are. You fear the thought of losing the happiness that you are feeling even if you are already hanging with unsure emotions. When does action speaks louder than words? When do you cross the boundaries of friendship? When could you differentiate love from kindness? When is would you know if love is does not parallel with fear?
When would you stop hoping when every single day the person tries to touch your heart? How could you avoid when your heart beats faster the moment you just turn away? How can you be friends with someone when every time you're with that person you imagine both your hands locked together?
It's a matter of how you would play with the tricks of reality. Sometimes you decide to just leave your feelings for someone when you realize you are just hoping for nothing. But the moment that person shows you even the slightest affection, you would again turn upside down and hope once more. You would again find yourself sandwiched on thoughts of being on the safe side by living with the assumptions in your mind according to the philosophies engraved in books or with the norms that the society is dictating on us or you would be brave enough to make a stand with what you really feel and confront the person to at least give you an idea where to stand.
Always put in mind that you can never force a person to love you the way you wanted to be loved. We are individuals who feel differently. No matter how we push things the way we want them, if they are not meant to happen, then, they won't materialize. After all, committing yourself to someone who is unsure of what he or she feels towards you is like building a beautiful mansion on sand. The beauty is only on the outside for a certain period of time. But as the big waves of problems come into the picture, the sturdy mansion would just fall into pieces since the foundation is just on weak sand.
Enjoy the feeling that you are in love. Do what your heart tells you. Hope for the impossible. But always remember, never fall too hard. You just entertain the idea of making him or her fall for you just to ease out the pain but I would suggest that while dreaming for the impossible, start convincing yourself that you will never end up with him or with her. If you continue to force the idea of you and that person being in love with each other one day, at the end of everything, the emotions would still remain as if you're looking at a stained glass from the outside its beauty bestowed before your eyes but what's inside is still a blur.







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